Sunday, 25 November 2012
He has to produce what she lacks, he has to guarante a wholeness. In exchange she offers herself as the answer to the question she has asked in his place, an answer she refuses beforehand. In a tacit conspiracy, the lack is never brought to the negotiating table. This hysterical solution has to be avoided. Psychoanalysis does not make the woman, nor the master. - Paul Verhaeghe, From Freud’s Hysteric to Lacan’s Feminine p245
In the phobic fantasy you convince a part of yourself that the bad things are elsewhere only because there is really no elsewhere. Finding hate objects may be every bit as essential as finding love objects, but if one can tolerate some of ones badness then one can take some fear out of the world. “ — Adam Phillips, On Kissing, Tickling And Being Bored
Zizek thinks masochism obfuscates a longing for discipline at the hands of the dominatrix. Here Zizek plays double double - his private phantasy eliminating a terrible symbolic father is in fact reinforced by a “need” for the “pacifying” real father, who seems to have some maternal qualities. On the other hand, the fantasy of an infantile reunion with the mother that subtends the formulation of parent-as-pacifier seems to be accompanied by a need for a chastising real mother (the dominatrix). This seems to mask, render, & reconfigure the terrifying Symbolic Father as Phallic Mother, and the Nurturing Mother as Mr. Mom, in order to avoid the confrontation (at the Oedipal interaction or website) with the other as Other. “ — Aline Flieger, Is Oedipus Online, p63
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