Crucial to Buddhism is the reflexive change from the object to the thinker himself:first,we isolate the thing that bothers us,the cause of our suffering;then we change not the object but ourselves,the way we relate to (what appears to us as)the cause of our suffering:“What was extinguished was only the false view of self.What had always been illusory was understood as such.Nothing was changed but the perspective of the observer.” … The path towards Buddhist Enlightenment begins by focusing on the most elementary feelings of “injured innocence,”of suffering an injustice without cause (the preferred topic of narcissistic,masochistic thoughts:“How could she do this to me?I don‟t deserve to be treated that way.” ). The next step is to make the shift to the Ego itself,the subject of these painful emotions,rendering clear and palpable its own fleeting and irrelevant status—the aggression directed against the object causing the suffering should be turned against the Self itself. … We gain the insight into the illusory nature of that which appears to need repair. http

Jujutsu With Zizek