The hysteric’s withdrawal of love can be interpreted in a mulltitude of other ways: as the expression of so-called feminine masochism preventing a woman to fully seize the day; as a protofeminist gesture of stepping out of the confines of phallic economy, wwhich posits as the woman’s ultimate goal her happiness in a relationship with a man; and so on. These Interpretations miss the point. If we equate subject with freedom & autonomy, is such a gesture of withdrawal not the ultimate form of autonomy” - Not as a sacrificial gesture addressed at some version of the big Other, but as a gesture that provides its own satisfaction in the bery gap that separates me from the object. “ — Slavoj Zizek, Four Discourses, Four Subjects, SIC2, p86

Jujutsu With Zizek