The object is ceded as a way to avoid anxiety. Anxiety is not triggered by a loss. Anxiety predates the loss of the object. The object is given up in order to quell anxiety. The infant at the breast is confronted above all by the unanswerable question of the mother’s desire. It is in the fate of this question that the mother assumes the form of das Ding, not the little other of the imaginary object, the mirror object of the imaginary human being, but the unknowable, unmasterable, and monstrous big Other. … The infant comes to experience itself as a body for the first time with the separation or ceding of the breast. “ — Richard Boothby, Freud as Philosopher, p. 246

Jujutsu With Zizek